5 Things that MEN can do to stop violence against women and children

  1. STOP, take a breath. Think before you act.

  2. Ideally you shouldn’t be drinking and doing drugs BUT if you do…Don’t make decisions while your judgement is impaired.

  3. Ask yourself,  “Is this person I’m about to hit smaller than me? someone I love?”

  4. Teach your sons to respect women and live as an example.

  5. Don’t be a silent observer of abuse by others.

~Brian

(2) The Peace Generation — LOVE OR FEAR

(2) There are ALWAYS two choices: love or fear. If you want peace then CHOOSE LOVE.

sleepy gosling lake2Love leads to peace. So how do you know you’ve chosen love rather than fear? Its easy — you will be at peace with the decision. There may seem to be chaos for a time around your decision. But you will be at peace. So what good is fear? Fear shows us the boundaries we should establish so that we can love freely without being hurt or surrendering our right to a peaceful existence.

Image5coyoteVery young children don’t need to be taught this. They know who they want to hug or play with. We as adults sometimes teach them otherwise. If a child’s instinct said love this coyote from a distance — would we as adults insist the child hug the coyote? Hopefully not. If a child’s instinct said to love one of our friends or relatives from a distance — would we as adults insist the child hug that adult ? It happens.

Canada Geese Goslings Lake NeatahwantaImagine a family gathering and a great-aunt or uncle opens their arms for a three-year old to run over and give them a big hug. The child backs up into the parent’s legs. What does the parent do? Decide the child needs to show the relative love and literally nudge them toward the relative to give the unwanted hug?

The nudging parent acted out of fear. The child acted out of self-love and chose peace. Pushing the child away and toward what or whom they feared vetoed the child’s instinct. Why the nudge? The parent wasn’t AT peace with the situation but rather trying to KEEP the peace. A few moments of chaos might ensue because of the child’s decision but the child would have been at peace. It may never come to light why the child backed away. Maybe the relative is intrinsically not a nice person or maybe the relative had a spider dangling over their head. Either way is the child being taught to associate love with fear rather than love with peace? I think so.

Image3catsIf we push a child toward what they fear enough times we shouldn’t be surprised when we sit down to teach them about peace if they put in the ear buds and crank the volume on their music. We teach what we know. So if we want to teach our children peace — first we have to know it ourselves.

So in writing all of this I would add to what I would tell a child:

TRUST YOURSELF to know the difference between love and fear. Don’t fear fear. If it pops up — use FEAR as a guide toward PeACE and the knowledge of what boundaries need to be erected to be at peace and then let the fear go.

What would you teach a child about peace?

 

 

Colleen

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(1) The Peace Generation — THERE’S A PURPOSE JUST FOR YOU

not dead zone trees Great Bear The Artists4Peace site asked for a list of 5 things that one would teach to a child about peace. This request coincided with my getting a lot of nudges from my inner guidance system to teach children spiritual stuff. It has taken me a few days to put the two together. I have continued to say to myself, But I don’t have any children in my life. What kid do you want me to teach? I’ve always preferred science to math but I finally added the two ideas together for my ah-ha moment. I don’t know what five ideas to list so I decided to start with one at a time. If you would like to read what others have listed on the Artists4Peace post click here. So to myself and all other “adults” out there wishing to have the next generation be THE PEACE GENERATION — here starts my first suggestion of what I would say to a child about peace. (please share yours in the comments).

THERE’S A PURPOSE JUST FOR YOU — EMBRACE IT

path Great BearThere would be a lot more peace on this planet if each child was taught that it is okay for them to follow their own path. Imagine what the square peg feels like as someone tries to ram it into the round hole. Each child we try to force to conform to a purpose that is not their’s — they know the pain and futility of being the square peg. As parents/teachers/adults it might help if we fired ourselves from being the bosses of our children and instead became their tour guides. As a tour guide, we wouldn’t tell them exactly where to go or what to do when they get to their destination. We would open up the vast possibilities of the world to our children and let them decide if they want to go to Paris Texas or Paris France? If they want to get there by sitting in coach seating or by flying the plane themselves? If they love football — do they want to be the quarterback or the cheerleader or the coach or a spectator?

Ice Guardian Photo FAA Art ShowLots of times as adults we think because a child is talented at something — they win trophies or get “A’s” — that that must be their purpose and we MUST as adults do what ever it takes to ensure they advance along that path. Before you decide what path your child should pursue — ask them to talk about what you’ve chosen for them — does their face light up or do they withdraw? Do they want to tell you everything about “it” or do they change the subject? Are they waiting at the door to go to the lesson or is there a “battle” every time to get them to put their shoes on?

I got “A’s” in chemistry — but I HATE it with all my being. I was divorced and broke and needing money and I was offered a job teaching chemistry. I almost took it. I declined for myself and the children I would have taught. Those kids deserved to have a teacher who was passionate about the subject. And I deserved to fulfill my purpose. (Because I turned down that job, I was free to accept the one I wanted a short time later.)

Our children and our world will be a much more peaceful place if each and every child was told today — YOU HAVE A PURPOSE — EMBRACE IT.

 

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Colleen

Fast 5 (Lessons in Peace) Updated Results!!

fast5

We asked you to tell us the 5 most important things to teach children about peace…and have gotten lots of great ideas!

Here are the results so far:

1-Do not be a bully
2-Be kind and share
3-Don’t be afraid to get to know someone because they look different
4-Offer assistance if you see someone needs a helping hand
5-Don’t hang around with a crowd of trouble makers

 

mishunderstood
1. Speak peacefully.
2. Acknowledge and validate children’s feelings…whether sad, mad or otherwise.
3. Respond. The brain of a small child has elasticity. This is the most opportune time for change. Every time you respond to their pain, stress, sadness, etc. in a positive way it helps to form pathways that will last a lifetime and contribute to their mental health.
4. Expose them to nature. Nature works as a system of cooperation. Life thrives in nature.
5. Be open and approachable. Closed minds do not create peace.
 hitandrun1964

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1. BE KIND AND COMPASSIONATE TO ALL LIVING THINGS
2. LIVE YOUR OWN LIFE YOUR OWN WAY
3. ALWAYS QUESTION AUTHORITY
4. LET YOUR CREATIVITY SOAR
5 TRUST YOURSELFIf you do these five things you will have peace.

 

Mary Lou

Compromise ~ Share ~ Empathize ~ Respect ~ Last but not least, Set Boundaries.

 

flavikiwi
1- know that nothing is forever, everything changes that’s the only constant.
2- listen. but think for yourself
3- your liberty ends when the others begins
4- work for the best, expect the worst
5- know that your actions always have consequences

amommasview

1. To keep peace you have to nurture it constantly.
2. Don’t let it slip out of your hand. Because it is in your hand.
3. You can make a difference.
4. You can make this world more peaceful.
5. Every little peaceful action counts. Don’t ever think it’s not important enough.

 

Heartafire
1 Violence never solves problems 2 learn to control your anger 3 discussion is the mature and reasonable path to resolution of differences 4 work toward acceptance of other people’s opinions and values even if you are not in agreement. 5 if all else fails to resolve anger and aggression , walk away. There is always tomorrow to try again
 hitandrun1964

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l. Believe in yourself.
2. Have fun.
3. Be brave.
4. Celebrate diversity.
5. Be open to life.


 

 

Wordifull Melanie

Teach peace

  • Teach children about other cultures.  Differences should be celebrated and embraced.
  • Teach personal responsibility.  We are each responsible for our own actions.
  • Teach self-respect and foster self-esteem.
  • Teach kindness and compassion….in word and ACTION
  • Teach problem solving and that there is more than one way to a solution to an issue.

 

 hitandrun1964

1. READ…reading gives children a better understanding of the world

2. DON’T JUDGE OTHERS…people aren’t better than
one another, just different

3. ACT…doing something teaches children to stand up
for what they believe in and it teaches them to help whenever
they can…it shows them that they can make a difference

4. SURROUND YOURSELF WITH THINGS/PEOPLE
THAT/WHO ENHANCE YOUR LIFE/JOY…if people are happy they
are more peaceful and share that feeling with others

5. DRAW BOUNDARIES & RESPECT YOURSELF…teaching kids
to draw boundaries that others can’t cross protects them and stops
them from becoming pawns for other people…it’s the anti-doormat rule


Keep sending in your thoughts!

Just leave your answers in the comments below or email them in to artists4peaceproject@gmail.com 

We will compile the results at the end into one cohesive list and post 🙂

Thanks!

Melanie and Gigi

Fast 5 (Lessons in Peace) Results so far!!

fast5

We asked you to tell us the 5 most important things to teach children about peace…and have gotten lots of great ideas!

Here are the results so far:

 hitandrun1964

P9260030

1. BE KIND AND COMPASSIONATE TO ALL LIVING THINGS
2. LIVE YOUR OWN LIFE YOUR OWN WAY
3. ALWAYS QUESTION AUTHORITY
4. LET YOUR CREATIVITY SOAR
5 TRUST YOURSELFIf you do these five things you will have peace.

 

Mary Lou

Compromise ~ Share ~ Empathize ~ Respect ~ Last but not least, Set Boundaries.

 

flavikiwi
1- know that nothing is forever, everything changes that’s the only constant.
2- listen. but think for yourself
3- your liberty ends when the others begins
4- work for the best, expect the worst
5- know that your actions always have consequences

amommasview

1. To keep peace you have to nurture it constantly.
2. Don’t let it slip out of your hand. Because it is in your hand.
3. You can make a difference.
4. You can make this world more peaceful.
5. Every little peaceful action counts. Don’t ever think it’s not important enough.

 

Heartafire
1 Violence never solves problems 2 learn to control your anger 3 discussion is the mature and reasonable path to resolution of differences 4 work toward acceptance of other people’s opinions and values even if you are not in agreement. 5 if all else fails to resolve anger and aggression , walk away. There is always tomorrow to try again
 hitandrun1964

th-36

l. Believe in yourself.
2. Have fun.
3. Be brave.
4. Celebrate diversity.
5. Be open to life.


 

 

Wordifull Melanie

Teach peace

  • Teach children about other cultures.  Differences should be celebrated and embraced.
  • Teach personal responsibility.  We are each responsible for our own actions.
  • Teach self-respect and foster self-esteem.
  • Teach kindness and compassion….in word and ACTION
  • Teach problem solving and that there is more than one way to a solution to an issue.

 

 hitandrun1964

1. READ…reading gives children a better understanding of the world

2. DON’T JUDGE OTHERS…people aren’t better than
one another, just different

3. ACT…doing something teaches children to stand up
for what they believe in and it teaches them to help whenever
they can…it shows them that they can make a difference

4. SURROUND YOURSELF WITH THINGS/PEOPLE
THAT/WHO ENHANCE YOUR LIFE/JOY…if people are happy they
are more peaceful and share that feeling with others

5. DRAW BOUNDARIES & RESPECT YOURSELF…teaching kids
to draw boundaries that others can’t cross protects them and stops
them from becoming pawns for other people…it’s the anti-doormat rule


Keep sending in your thoughts!

Just leave your answers in the comments below or email them in to artists4peaceproject@gmail.com 

We will compile the results at the end into one cohesive list and post 🙂

Thanks!

Melanie and Gigi

Fast 5 ~ Books (Recommendations as of 9/10)

In addition to the Monthly scheduled topics we will periodically post questions to get us all thinking 🙂 Just leave your answers in the comments below or email them in to artists4peaceproject@gmail.com I will compile the results and post 🙂

fast5

Tell us 5 books that promote peace!  (No religious texts please)

Books Recommended so far!!!!

From Carol Balawyder:

The obvious, I suppose, is Tolstoy’s War and Peace. After reading this stellar review of the novel, I’m going to read it again. http://www.huffingtonpost.com/andrew-kaufman/war-and-peace_b_5339720.html

From Gigi:

TAO TE CHING, by Stephen Mitchell. My favorite book. In my opinion, this is the best translation. None of the others I’ve read can compare.

THE ANTI-WAR QUOTE BOOK, edited by Eric Groves, Sr.

 

*A huge Thank You to Michelle Marie for designing the Artists 4 Peace Fast 5 logo.  You can see much more of her fabulous work on her blog Tell Me About It

Fast 5 ~ Books

In addition to the Monthly scheduled topics we will periodically post questions to get us all thinking 🙂

Just leave your answers in the comments below or email them in to artists4peaceproject@gmail.com

I will compile the results and post 🙂

fast5

So for your first FAST FIVE:

Tell us 5 books that promote peace!  (No religious texts please)

 

*A huge Thank You to Michelle Marie for designing the Artists 4 Peace Fast 5 logo.  You can see much more of her fabulous work on her blog Tell Me About It