50 Things I’ve Learned in 50 Years…#27

“Even though we are all different, we are all the same.  We all want to be loved and accepted for who we are.”

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One of the greatest challenges in life is cooperative interaction with others. We hit walls we don’t want to climb and cross bridges we don’t want to meet…half…way. We guard our personalities and beliefs with our life.

Why? It took a long time to figure out who we are and no one is going to mess with that…right?

However, sometimes we have to step out of our deep rooted convictions and venture into neutral territories. It is in this place that we will find one thing in common. When we look underneath egos and actions, we will find the vulnerability that makes all of us human….the need to be validated and loved.

This is where hearts will align.. in spite of ourselves.

 

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Everyone…a poem

everyone
sees
the
world
in
a
different
way

 

everyone
wants
and
needs
different
things

 

it’s
good
to
remember
those
things
next
time
we
disagree
with
people

 

they
aren’t
always
out
to
get
us

 

they
might
just
see
want
and
need
different
things
than
we
do

 

but
If
the
differences
are
too
great

 

walk
away

 

 

 

 

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by hitandrun1964

How can we?

How can we face tomorrow

When we’re not sure we can survive today

How can we accept the fact

That prejudice still finds its way

How can we lose sight of judgement?

By closing our eyes to see!

Knowing brother and sister by heart

Is the way it was meant to be

How can we save our children

From this turmoil that we know

Plant a garden with every seed

By example watch how they grow

Each one a compliment to the other

Beauty in the fact they aren’t the same

Such a simple concept

That to this day eludes the brain

Therein rests the problem

When we think with our minds

Spirit should be our guide

To help us see the signs

That  history is stuck on repeat

The results are unchanged too

It’s time for an awakening

To recognize what we must do

Close our eyes

To lose sight of judgement

That we may see clearly

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by busymindthinking

Pets promote emotional connections

Ask anyone that has ever owned a pet and they will tell you their presence is an addition to, or an extension of, family. Studies have proven the emotional impact pets have on people and I can attest to that fact myself.

Our dog Thunder came to our home for two reasons mainly; the first, to bring security back to our family after our home was broken into while we slept, and secondly, to provide companionship for me as I spend a great deal of time alone due to my illness. (No sorrow please about that statement – grin).

Today with a heavy heart, I had to do what was best for my beloved dog and gift him a new home. You see, he’s very strong and energetic, and I am not at present. I wasn’t interested in selling him (I wouldn’t sell my children if they needed more than I could offer – family, yes, pets are family). I merely wanted to find someone to love him as much as my family does. My friend Kim took care of that and found a wonderful retired gentleman in need of companionship. I count that as a double blessing as Thunder will be able to bring to his life what he did to ours and especially mine.

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Yes, no longer a pup and still growing.Yes, no longer a pup and still growing.

Pets inspire and motivate us in many ways. On days when my legs were screaming “no” to movement, Thunder still needed to get outside, so it pushed me to try a little harder. I got exercise I may have otherwise ignored. I also had purpose; he needed food, water, play time, and affection. Not to mention, he could read me like a book, very perceptive! The way Thunder managed my “bad” days astounded me, taking steps one-by-one instead of tearing down them in excitement. Now he’s just so strong it wouldn’t matter how gentle he tries to be, I still can’t manage. (That’s just reality, again no need to be sad – grin).

I wonder what the state of the world may be if everyone knew the devotion in loving pets and having them love you the same? They offer loyalty, protection, acceptance, affection, commitment, and the list is endless. Perhaps every politician should consult with a pet prior to decision-making because I am certain they would be influenced by all that a pet is. (Just a thought – grin).

All this being said, I couldn’t imagine life without a pet – therefore, meet our new family member, Andi. He’s just the perfect size and his demeanor is very tranquil, though he’s still fun (grin). A family fit to be sure!

Welcome Andi!Welcome Andi!

Today I thought about how pets relate to our skills with people. I loved Thunder enough to let him go. I thought of his needs over my own. Though I cried like a baby when he left, he reminded me of the capacity I have to love. Isn’t that a beautiful gift in spite of sorrow? I believe so. Add to that all the affection he incited and yes, once again, I am firm in my belief that pets can bring out the best in everyone.

I’m wiping tears and thinking how blessed he is to be loved so much by so many.

Thunder's new home and family. Wide open spaces. Thunder’s new home and family. Wide open spaces.

 

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by busymindthinking

Imagine Peace

Just a couple of thoughts inspired by a post of Artists4peace:

Imagine Peace! Wow, what a beautiful place this earth would be…

Imagine if everyone would get along with each other… Would that be nice?

Imagine if we would find a way to make it happen. Finally. How amazing would that be!

Imagine if we would respect each other, no matter of our religion, the color of our skin, the beliefs we follow, the way we look, we act, we think, we move. Imagine we would respect each other for WHO we are. How much fun could we all have!

Reading papers, magazines, blogs, watching TV, listening to the radio and I feel like they all say the same: Imagine how nice this world would be, if we all would live in peace.

So why is it, that it is not happening? Why is it, that we still fight those wars, that we still go on rampages and kill? Why is it, that we still don’t respect different beliefs, different religions, different looks, different behaviors and so on?

If we all want to live in a better world, if we all want to feel safe, how can it be, that we still don’t all pull on the same rope. And in the same direction?

It would be so easy! The solution is there, right in front of our nose!

How about we all start with respect. Respect for the people around us. Respect for everything we consider different. How about we built “the next level” on respect: Acceptance. How about we live these two simple but so powerful words daily. And how about we teach them to our kids. Respect and accept other people for who they are.

Is it really that simple? It kind of seems like it, right? But then it doesn’t.

If only it would be that simple. The world would have turned into a better place a long time ago already…

I guess the key is not to give up. Keep teaching your kids those values and keep living them. And maybe one day our kids might actually see the change and will hopefully be able to live in a peaceful world…

How nice would that be 🙂

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50 Things I’ve Learned in 50 Years…#22

  • “Friends do not always reveal themselves.”

    I am still hanging on to the theory that we were put on this earth to share with others. Whether it be our time, our possessions, our abilities, our talents, our compassion, our stories…whatever we have to give, I think we are supposed to give.  When doing so, sometimes we are blessed with interactions that lead to friendships.

    Friendships are gifts. The problem is that sometimes they are hard to identify. If only they came in neat little packages tied up with a bow…with a little tag that says, “Really, I’m your friend..for real.”  Between reading social cues, dealing with your own personal insecurities and the fear of forming assumptions, it can become complicated…at least it has been for me. Maybe I’m just a freak so unique that I have trouble with this. I am a very open person. This could hinder the process of some potential friendships. I probably scare the hell out of people. Would I change this about me? Absolutely not.

    So what have I learned about friendships?

    I’ve learned that often I am afraid to call them that.

    I know what I think a friendship should be.

    My eclectic personality requires a wide variety of friends.

    I’ve learned that the more time someone gives me, the more I feel they are truly my friend.

    Although I do not fear rejection (because I am secure with who I am), I get frustrated when I can’t determine the intentions of others. I am not sure if this is a problem on my part or theirs.

    For the most part, I think I am a good friend.

    I treasure the friendships I have.

    A friend can come in any size, race, age, occupation, social background, education, etc.

    Openness is key to me.

    Your spouse can be your best friend.

    Anything pretentious, materialistic or superficial does not interest me.  My relationships need to be deeper.

    I have learned that even at my age, I still have lots to learn about establishing friendships.

    In my opinion…

    A good friend truly cares about you, would do almost anything in the world for you, listens to you, advises you, confides in you, laughs with you and cries with you.

    A good friend is someone who doesn’t care what you look like, accepts all of your faults, your mistakes and never gives up on you.

    A good friend has no ulterior motives for being your friend.

    A good friend considers the reasons you have become who you are.

    A good friend sees your positive traits and enjoys them in the moment.

    A good friend has time for you.

    A good friend would sincerely miss you if you were gone.

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Peace

Peace

Street Scene Hong Kong

I have not been much of a traveler, except for traveling in my own Country South Africa and a few other countries on the African continent.  Recently though I had had the opportunity to explore a little more outside of the African continent.
Every time though, when applying for Visa’s and also when at the various different “Customs” areas, I am struck by how un-free us humans really are.  My mind wonders and I fantasize about all humans being free to roam, anywhere we want to go on this beautiful planet earth that we inhabit.  Of course, I realize and understand about the restrictions and the need for them, but wouldn’t it be a wonderful world if us humans could explore in peace, never to worry about where we are going; that we would be welcome in all the different countries and cultures on this planet of ours; where there would be so much peace that we would not have to have rules, laws, and having to ask to be accepted?

 

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we have tried…

Rethinking Life

war
fighting
killing
maiming
torturing
destroying
pillaging
demanding
taking
stealing
starving
lying
deceiving
raping
bombing
burning
hatefulness
prejudice
bullying
and
meanness
all
of
which
has
accomplished
nothing
but
has
simply
become
a
way
of
life

maybe
it’s
time
we
turned
things
upside
down
and
tried
cooperation
beauty
laughter
joy
acceptance
dancing
celebration
sharing
talking
singing
loving
kindness
helping
hope
and
ART

we
are
constantly
bombarded
with
NEGATIVE
images
perhaps
by
surrounding
ourselves
with
positive
images
we
can
change
the
world
one
person
at
a
time

we
may
as
well
try
it

we
certainly
have
NOTHING
TO
LOSE

after
all
how
bad
can
PEACE
be

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